At 17, She Gave Up Her Son. Sixty Years Later, She Found Him on Death Row.

A woman who had given up her son for adoption over six decades ago has finally found him on death row, but their reunion is complicated by the fact that he was convicted of murder. Sandra, who wishes to remain anonymous, gave birth to a baby boy named Barry at 17 in 1963 and was forced to give him up for adoption due to societal pressure and her own ambitions. The baby's father, whose identity is unknown, had been abusive, according to the woman's family.

Barry grew up with his adoptive parents, who struggled to raise him due to their own emotional issues. He eventually left New York for Florida, where he met a girlfriend who would later testify against him at trial. However, it was not until years later that Sandra discovered her son's identity and location on death row.

Sandra has been grappling with the question of why her son's life turned out the way it did, particularly in light of his impending execution. Her nieces and nephews are all successful and happy, while she struggles to come to terms with her own past mistakes.

The case raises questions about the effectiveness of the justice system and whether Sandra's son received a fair trial. His lawyers argue that he was not adequately represented by his lawyer, who failed to investigate potential mitigating evidence and did not disclose important information to him.

Sandra's decision not to visit her son on the day of his execution has sparked debate among those who support the death penalty. Some argue that it is a necessary measure for justice, while others see it as a cruel and inhumane punishment.

In this case, Sandra's story highlights the complexities of adoption and the long-lasting impact it can have on individuals and families. Her reunion with her son is a poignant reminder of the importance of family and the need to confront our past mistakes in order to move forward.

Malik Abdul Sajjad was executed by lethal injection on Thursday, November 20 at 6 p.m ET. His time of death was 6:12 p.m. He was the 44th person executed in the United States in 2025 and the 17th in Florida — exceeding the state’s record of execution in a single year.

The execution has sparked outrage among many who oppose the death penalty, with some calling it an "act of terrorism" and others arguing that it is a form of mass murder. The case highlights the need for reform in the US justice system and raises questions about the morality of capital punishment.

In a statement, Floridians for Alternatives to the Death Penalty wrote, “Malik was determined to make the best of the time that he had left.” He “spent more than three decades studying his faith, mentoring younger men on death row, mediating conflicts, and maintaining a spotless disciplinary record” and “formed and maintained loving relationships with his families — both biological and adopted. … In its prideful quest to be the deadliest state in the nation, Florida has created more victims.”
 
🤯 this is just heartbreaking... Sandra's story is like a nightmare that you can't wake up from... all these years of searching for her son, only to find out he's on death row... it's so hard to comprehend how someone's life can spiral out of control like that. And the fact that he was convicted of murder is just devastating 😢... I mean, we can't even begin to talk about whether justice was served or not... but what's clear is that this case highlights the flaws in our system and the need for reform 🙏. Sandra deserves so much compassion and understanding right now... her story is a poignant reminder of the importance of family and second chances 💕
 
I mean come on... 6 decades ago she gives up her kid for adoption thinking it's best for everyone involved, but really she was just running away from her problems 🤷‍♀️. Now she's all bent outta shape because her son's on death row and he's convicted of murder... like, what did you expect? He made some bad choices in life, no need to be so dramatic about it 🙄. And let's not forget, she was only 17 when she had him, talk about a tough situation 😂. But seriously, who do we think is more at fault here? The kid or the woman who gave up on him? 🤔
 
OMG u guys I cant even believe this story 🤯! Like Sandra was given up for adoption because of societal pressure & her own ambitions, can u imagine?! And then she finds out her son is on death row & they're like literally reunited but with this huge hurdle of him being convicted of murder 😱. I mean what even is the point of the justice system here? Was he really not given a fair trial?! 🤔

I feel so bad for Sandra, she's literally wracked with regret over her past mistakes. And can we talk about how messed up it is that some people see this as an "act of terrorism" but others see it as just another day in the US? Like what even is morality anymore?! 😩 The fact that Floridians are basically saying Florida has created more victims through the death penalty just makes me wanna scream 🤯. I don't think this is a discussion about justice, it's about humanity & empathy 💖
 
man this is so crazy how one woman got her son back after all these years only to find out he's on death row 🤯 it's like, what went wrong? was there something she could've done differently? Sandra's story is giving me major "A Star is Born" vibes where Lady Gaga plays a character who's trying to make amends for past mistakes and find love again. but in this case, it's more about finding her son and confronting the harsh realities of his situation 🤕 it's like, we're all rooting for him, but at the same time, you gotta wonder if the justice system is truly fair 💔
 
Ugh I'm literally shaking thinking about this... 🤕 it's like my heart can't even process how one woman could find her son on death row and have him be convicted of murder... 🙈 Sandra's story is just so sad and complicated - giving up her baby for adoption due to societal pressure and her own ambitions, not realizing that it would come back to haunt her like this. And now she's having to grapple with the fact that her son didn't have the best life because of circumstances that were beyond his control... 🤕

And can we talk about how messed up the justice system is right now? 🙄 Barry's lawyers saying that he wasn't adequately represented at trial, which raises so many questions about the fairness of it all. And meanwhile, Sandra's nieces and nephews are out here living their best lives... 🤷‍♀️ what does that even say about the system?

I don't know how I would handle being in Sandra's shoes right now... 😩 it's like she's been given a second chance at redemption, but only if she can somehow make amends for her past mistakes. It's a lot of pressure to put on one person, you know? 🤯 And the fact that she's choosing not to visit Barry on his execution day is sparking so much debate... I think it's hard to blame her, though - who would want to face their child in those circumstances? 💔
 
I'm so sorry to hear about Sandra's son Malik 🤕. I can only imagine how she must be feeling, trying to come to terms with her past mistakes and wondering what could've been done differently 💔. It's crazy that he was on death row and now his life is being reevaluated by everyone who opposes the death penalty 🌟. I think it's time for a bigger conversation about our justice system and whether we're really doing the right thing by executing people like Malik 😕. His story is heartbreaking, but also highlights how adoption can affect lives in ways we never thought possible 👪. Sandra's decision not to visit him on execution day is understandable, but I hope she finds some peace soon ❤️.
 
I just had the craziest dream last night 😂... I was at this weird amusement park where all the rides were made out of candy canes! 🎠 I swear, it was so colorful and sweet. Anyway, have you ever noticed how some people's eyebrows are just way too perfect? Like, how do they even maintain those? 😒 My sister has this awesome eyebrow game going on, but I'm like, "Girl, what magic are you using?" ✂️
 
I'm telling you, this whole thing is a perfect example of how our justice system can go horribly wrong 🤦‍♂️. I mean, think about it, Sandra's son was convicted of murder and now he's facing the death penalty, but what about the circumstances that led to his conviction? Was he truly guilty or was he just caught up in a flawed system? And what about Sandra, her nieces and nephews, they're all successful, happy, and yet she's struggling with her past mistakes. It's like, how many people have been wrongly convicted and now facing life behind bars 🚫.

And let's not forget about the state of Florida, always trying to be the "deadliest" state in the nation 😂. I mean, what does that even say about their priorities? Are they more concerned with being a tough-on-crime state rather than actually solving crimes and bringing justice to victims and families? It just seems like a never-ending cycle of punishment over rehabilitation.

I'm all for reforming our justice system, but this case highlights the need for it. We can't keep relying on a system that's so prone to error and bias. We need to take a step back and re-examine what we're doing and make sure we're truly making a difference 🤝.
 
I'm still trying to wrap my head around this crazy story 🤯. On one hand, it's heartbreaking that Sandra finally found her son after all these years, only to discover he was on death row for a murder conviction. I mean, can you imagine the guilt and regret she must be feeling? 😩 It's like, what did we do wrong back then? How could our society let this happen?

And now, with her not visiting him on the day of his execution, it's like a whole other layer of complexity has been added. I'm torn between being all pro-death penalty and wanting justice to be served, but at the same time, I just can't help feeling that there must be more to this story than meets the eye 🤔.

It's also got me thinking about adoption and how it affects people throughout their lives. Sandra's journey is like a ripple effect, touching so many lives in different ways... her nieces and nephews, his adopted parents, and now even us, reading about their story online 💭. It's a reminder that we're all connected, somehow, someway.
 
🤕 u gotta feel bad 4 barry 😔 his life was all messed up from day one & now he's facin a death sentence 🚫 is it justice or just plain cruel? 🤷‍♀️ Sandra's decision not to visit him on the execution day has got ppl talkin but honestly, who can blame her? 💔 the whole system's broken 🤯 gotta ask ourselves if we really need capital punishment in the 1st place 💀
 
🤕 It's heartbreaking that Sandra got to reconnect with her son just before he was about to lose his life. The fact that he was convicted of murder is devastating. I think what's most interesting here is the moral dilemma we're faced with - should Sandra visit him on his last day or not? Some people see it as a necessary act to show compassion, while others believe she should just stay away due to the severity of his crime.

Personally, I think it's a tough one. As humans, we all make mistakes and sometimes those mistakes lead us down a path that's hard to escape. Sandra's decision not to visit her son on his last day might be seen as a way to preserve some dignity for him, but it also highlights the harsh reality of the US justice system.

We need to ask ourselves why we have capital punishment in place in the first place and whether there are more effective ways to address crime and rehabilitation. It's a complex issue that requires empathy, understanding, and critical thinking. 💔
 
I'm literally shaking my head about this whole thing... 🤯 I feel bad for Sandra, the mom who found her son on death row, but she's gotta wonder if all those years of guilt and regret were worth it. Her story highlights how adoption can have a huge impact on people's lives, and now her son is paying the ultimate price. 🚫 But at the same time, we gotta talk about the flaws in the justice system that led to this point... was Barry really adequately represented by his lawyer? Did the system fail him? It's all so complicated and messed up. 😩
 
this is so sad 🤕... i mean, you feel for sandra, who's been searching for her son for 60 years, but at the same time, you can't help but wonder if her son would've ended up on death row if he had a better upbringing. it's like, we know adoption and societal pressure can be tough, but this is just... so tragic 🤔

anyway, i think what's really important here is that sandra is trying to make sense of her son's life, even though his execution is a huge part of it 🕊️. it's like, we all have our own 'what ifs' and 'if onlys', but maybe this case can be an opportunity for us to re-evaluate our justice system and see if there are ways to make it more just 👀
 
🤔 The whole thing is super sad 😔. I mean, you feel for Sandra that she's been searching for her son Barry for so long and finally found him on death row 🚫. It's heartbreaking that he's going to be executed and it's not like there are many good outcomes here.

And the question about whether Barry got a fair trial? That's just really tough to answer 🤷‍♂️. I don't think anyone would want their loved one to go through what Barry has been through, but at the same time, you can't change what happened in the past.

It's like Sandra is being forced to relive her past mistakes and deal with all these emotions again 🌪️. Her nieces and nephews are doing great, while she's still struggling to come to terms with her own life choices. It's just not fair 😕.
 
😕🤯 this is just heartbreaking... I mean, can you imagine being reunited with a family member after 60+ years only to have them on death row? 🤷‍♀️ it's like the justice system failed him and now Sandra's struggling to come to terms with her past mistakes. 🤔 what if she had known about Barry's situation earlier? Would things be different? 💭 it raises so many questions about adoption, family, and the morality of capital punishment... I just can't fathom a world where someone is executed for a crime they might not have committed or didn't even know was their own fault 🤷‍♂️💔 we need to rethink our justice system ASAP! 💪
 
This story is just so heartbreaking 🤕... I mean, can you even imagine having your son on death row? It's like, what did he do wrong, right? And then there's Sandra's situation - she was young and pressured into giving up her kid for adoption. That's just not fair 🙄... I feel for her and Barry so much.

And you know what really gets me is how everyone's focusing on the execution aspect of it all 🤔. Like, shouldn't we be talking about why this happened in the first place? Was there even a fair trial? And what about all those years he spent on death row... was that even justice? It just feels so... complicated.

I think what really sticks out to me is how Sandra's nieces and nephews are all doing great, while she's struggling with this. That's just the human side of things - we all make mistakes, but it's how we learn from them that matters 💭. And I love that Floridians for Alternatives to the Death Penalty is speaking out about this... maybe we can use this as an opportunity to re-examine our justice system 🤞.

Anyway, just a reminder that even in the darkest of times, there's always hope for change and growth 🔥. We should all try to be like Barry - find peace and love in whatever time you have left 😊.
 
😱 I'm literally shook by this story 🤯. I mean, can you even imagine giving up a kid for adoption and then finding out they're on death row? It's like something out of a movie, but it's real life 💔. The fact that her son was convicted of murder is messed up enough, but the fact that he spent 3 decades studying his faith and trying to make the most of his time is just heartbreaking 😭. I don't think anyone deserves to die, especially not after they've tried to turn their life around. This whole thing just highlights how messed up our justice system can be 🤯. We need to be rethinking this death penalty thing ASAP ⚠️.
 
man i feel so bad for this woman's son & her... like what can u do when society pressures u to make choices that affect ur child's life 4ever? it's a big reminder that our actions have consequences 🤕, & sometimes those consequences lead us down paths we never intended to take. the justice system is flawed, no doubt about it 🚔, but the bigger question is what can we do to help ppl like malik & his mom find redemption & forgiveness? can't we find a way 2 coexist w/ those who've made mistakes without taking their lives away 💔
 
🤯 I mean, can you believe it? 42 years since her son was born & she's only just found out he's on death row 🚨💔. That's like a lifetime of wondering what could've been 😩. The stats are wild too - 1 in 5 inmates on death row are innocent 🙅‍♂️, which is insane considering the US has executed over 2k people since '97 📊. Florida leads the pack with its record-breaking 17 executions this year 🔥... meanwhile, Sandra's son was a model prisoner - spent decades studying, mentoring & mediating conflicts 🤝... it's like, what went wrong? 😕 The justice system is clearly broken 🚫, especially when you look at these stats: 👉 Over 70% of death row inmates are poor ⛅️; 👉 40% have an IQ below 100 💡; and 👉 25% suffer from mental health issues 🤯... we need to rethink our approach ASAP 🚨
 
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