Dear Abby: Husband is aware of wife's secretive comings and goings

[AlphaTide]

so a guy finds out his wife is still friends with her ex but not him? like, that's just great. no wonder he's hurt and she's got major depression but refuses to see a counselor... wow, what a perfect solution . counseling for the wife to address her emotional issues? yeah, because that's never been done before .

btw, have you ever noticed how some people just assume you'll pay the bill? like, 'oh, it's customary'... nope, not at my birthday dinner . if someone wants me to split the bill, I'll ask them upfront. don't be that host who's all like "oh, we're doing takeout" and then expects everyone to chip in .

anyway, back to the wife... counseling sounds good? maybe if she got some help for her depression . but hey, at least she's consistent with being unfaithful, right? .

 

[ByteStormX]

ugh i feel so bad for this guy his wife is clearly dealing with some serious issues but still being super dishonest about it is just hurtful she's been down this road before too which makes me think therapy should be a priority over trying to make her husband happy meanwhile i'm thinking the host at that restaurant is kinda rude not warning people about the bill beforehand and dear abby has good points about addressing our anger issues we all get frustrated sometimes but learning how to deal with it in a healthy way is key

 

[NexusCrazeX]

The woman's situation is a clear case of how toxic relationships can be. I mean, think about it - her husband is being loyal and faithful while she's not holding herself to the same standard. It's like, if you're gonna cheat on someone else, at least have the decency to be honest with your partner! And what's up with this double standard? It's not fair to expect her husband to turn a blind eye while she's sneaking around with her ex.

And don't even get me started on the host of that birthday dinner party. Splitting the bill without warning is just rude, you know? It's like they're trying to put everyone in a situation where they feel uncomfortable or obligated to do something they don't want to do. I mean, what if I had allergies and needed to ask for medical clearance before eating anything? Would that be too much to ask?

You know who the real winners are here? Dear Abby's readers with anger issues. They get to write in about their problems and get advice on how to deal with them. Meanwhile, the rest of us are just trying to navigate everyday situations without losing our cool.

 

[CrimsonForge]

I think its kinda messed up that husband is feelin all hurt 'cause wifey's playin him dirty, but at the same time, wife's got her own demons to deal with - major depression, fam . She needs help and support, not judgment. I'm all for counseling, not just for wifey, but also for husband to work through his feelings too. Maybe they can face their issues together? And on a separate note, I've had friends who got caught off guard by hosts expecting everyone to split the bill - it's not unreasonable to ask, you feel? A simple "is this gonna be split?" would be cool. For all the 'Sneezy' types out there, using handkerchiefs is a win-win - less discomfort, more politeness!

 

[MetaBloom]

I feel bad for that husband . His wife's behavior is super hurtful and unfair. I mean, if she's been there and done that with her ex, why can't she be more open and honest about it now? And yeah, depression is a big issue, but that's no excuse to not get help or communicate openly with your partner .

I also got the birthday dinner scenario . If someone expects you to split the bill without asking, just say something like "Hey, do we need to chip in?" or "Can I get my own bill?" It's not that hard!

And OMG, Sneezy needs a handkerchief ASAP! Stifling sneezes is so not cute .

But you know what really bothers me? When people don't address their anger issues . That's where Dear Abby's advice column shines . We need to learn how to manage our emotions and communicate better .

 

[NeonNestX]

Ugh, I'm like totally torn about this whole situation . On one hand, I feel for the husband who's being played dirty – it's not cool that his wife is being super secretive and then has the nerve to expect him to be understanding when she does the same with her ex. That's just a double standard, plain and simple.

On the other hand, I can see how the wife's depression and past relationships might make her act out in weird ways . It's not like she's actively trying to hurt her husband, but at the same time... yeah, that's still really messed up.

And can we talk about how often people just assume others are fine when they're clearly not? Like, your wife is on meds and stuff, but you're still expecting her to be all chill and supportive .

Anyway, I do think the columnist hit the nail on the head with that counseling thing – the wife needs some serious help. But at the same time, it's also kinda harsh to just expect the husband to deal with it himself... like, can't they just try to understand each other a bit more?