Dear Abby: I’m about to retire and have anxiety over my new spare time

Retirement Blues: One Woman's Struggle to Find Purpose in Freedom.

As she prepares to trade in her work uniform for a pair of comfortable slippers and a lifetime supply of leisure time, 66-year-old Sarah is feeling anything but carefree. With 47 years of dedicated employment under her belt, Sarah has been juggling full-time jobs, raising two children, and maintaining a home – all while wondering what she'll do with herself once the daily grind comes to an end.

As she approaches retirement in just three months' time, anxiety is creeping in. "I'm tired of the rat race," she admits, but at the same time, she's having trouble shaking off the feeling that she should be doing something more. With plenty of friends and family to keep her company, Sarah is struggling to find meaning in her newfound freedom.

Dear Abby, a seasoned advisor on matters of the heart, offers some sage advice: "Start making a list of what your interests are." It's a straightforward approach, but one that can be daunting for someone who has dedicated so many years to a single career path. As Sarah ponders this suggestion, she's forced to confront the possibility that her true passions may not have been nurtured during her working years.

Perhaps it's time to take up a new hobby or explore opportunities for personal growth, such as adult education classes or volunteering in her community? Or maybe it's simply about embracing the freedom to do whatever she pleases – without apology. As Abby so succinctly puts it, "How you choose to spend your free time is entirely up to you and limited only by your imagination."

In other news, a concerned grandma in Florida finds herself caught between two obligations: spending quality time with her grandson at the park, and offering attention to a young girl who seems to be wandering solo. With no parents in sight and a penchant for climbing on the playground equipment, this 6-year-old is attaching herself to Sarah's family with alarming speed – much to the dismay of the grandma.

In a heartwarming yet precarious situation, Abby advises Sarah to politely ask the little girl who's been monopolizing her grandson's attention: "Who is there with you? Mom, dad, aunt, caregiver?" If she discovers that no responsible adult is watching over this young child, it's time for action. As Abby so rightly puts it, "For heaven's sake, report it to the school or CPS – leaving a child unattended is child endangerment."

As we navigate our own mid-life transitions, it's easy to get caught up in the what-ifs and maybes of retirement. But with a little creativity, self-reflection, and support from those around us, even the most anxious among us can find purpose and happiness in our golden years.
 
🤔 i think its super relatable how sarah is struggling to find her purpose after all these yrs of working hard 💼. like, we all know retirement isnt just about chillin on the couch all day (although who doesnt love that 😴) but also about having a sense of fulfillment & doing stuff thats meaningful 2 u 🎨.

i mean, sometimes its easy 2 assume that after we stop working, well automatically find our true passions & interests 🤞. but really, its often the opposite - we gotta make time 2 explore & discover what makes us tick 🔍. so yeah, im all 4 sarah 👩💪.

btw, i just saw a vid where an older person is trying out rock climbing 4 the first time 🤯🏔️. looks like they're having the most epic adventure ever 😂. gotta love that midlife crisis energy 💥
 
I totally feel for Sarah 🤗. I've been there myself when I retired from my corporate job and had to figure out what to do with all that free time 😊. At first, it was overwhelming, but then I started taking up painting classes and volunteering at a local animal shelter 🎨🐶. It's amazing how finding something you love can give your life purpose. And I think Sarah needs to take Abby's advice and make a list of her interests - who knows, she might just discover a new passion! 💡
 
this is so relatable 🤗 I've seen tons of people my age stressing about what they're gonna do after retirement and it's like, chill dude 😎 you don't have to have it all figured out just yet. Sarah sounds like she needs some time to explore her interests and maybe take a few classes or volunteer. but the thing is, we can't expect our parents or family members to just magically fill the void if they're not there for us either 🤝

and omg with that little girl situation, it's so important to prioritize someone else's safety over being polite 😬 who needs to ask if there's an adult present when you know there isn't? 🙄 anyway, I think what dear abby is trying to say is that retirement isn't just about us, it's about how we contribute to our communities and make a difference in people's lives. maybe Sarah can find her purpose by helping out at the park or something 🌳
 
omg u gotta feel 4 sarah rn 🤷‍♀️ she's literally stuck b/w wanting 2 chill & do nothing but feeling like shes forgotten what shes good at lol maybe she cld try out a new hobby or sumthin 🎨📚? or like, take up adult ed classes 2 learn somethin new? idk wut sarah's passions r but it sounds like she's got time 2 figure it out now 😂 & btw grandma's situation sounds super stressful 🤯 u gotta report that kid 2 CPS ASAP! 👮‍♀️
 
omg I feel u sarah 🤣 like wot r we supposed 2 do wen we finally get 2 enjoy our lives? 😂 I mean I had a pretty chill time after uni but then ppl started bugging me 2 get a job lol I was all about just chillin' and traveling 🗺️ but then my parents were all "when r u gonna settle down?" 🙄

idk abt sarah's anxiety tho 😩 maybe shd just try some new tings? like she said, wot r her interests? 🤔 could b loads of tings! and yea, adult ed classes or volunteering cud b a good way 2 find purpose 💡 but idk, I'd rather jus enjoy life @ my own pace 😎
 
so her problem is finding meaning in life after 47 yrs of servitude? like she's never thought about it before? lolololol what's next gonna be "oh no, I forgot to turn off my oven"? 🙄 i mean, how hard is it to make a list of your interests? and what's with the "do whatever you please" attitude? seems like just an excuse for not wanting to get her hands dirty. btw, who lets a 6-yr-old wander solo at the park?! 😒
 
I was just reading about these crazy bees that are taking over the world's coffee supplies 🐝😂 but anyway, back to this article... I feel so bad for Sarah, she sounds like my grandma after she retired from her job at the library 📚. My grandma would get so bored and start rearranging the furniture in our living room just because 😂. But seriously though, finding purpose in retirement is tough. Maybe they should create more adult coloring books or something? I mean, I've seen some of those and they're actually pretty relaxing 😎. Or Sarah could try joining a book club or something. That's what my friend does to stay active and social 📚👫. Oh wait, I just remembered that I need to pick up milk on the way home from work... 🛍️
 
the anxiety surrounding retirement is super relatable 🤔... i think it's not just about finding a new hobby or activity to fill the void, but also redefining what purpose means to us as individuals 💡. for many people, like sarah, their identity has been deeply tied to their career, and it can be daunting to figure out who they are outside of that context. maybe it's time to explore what we value most in life, beyond just productivity or achievements? 🌱... and kudos to dearabby for offering practical advice 🙏... and oh man, the grandma situation is a serious red flag 😬... prioritizing child safety above all else is so important 🚨
 
omg u feel me?! sarah is literally reliving our anxiety about retirement 🤯♀️. i mean we've all been there - after 10+ yrs of dedicated work, the thought of doing absolutely nothing can be terrifying 😂. but at the same time, it's like "wait, this is it? my life is just gonna revolve around Netflix and gardening?" 🌱

anyway, abby's advice to make a list of her interests is fire 🔥! we need more people telling us that our passions don't necessarily have to be discovered in the workplace 💸. maybe it's time for sarah (and us) to explore new hobbies and interests 🎨📚

but lol at that grandma situation 😂... report the kid to cps, fam 👮‍♀️! anywayz, just wanted to share my thoughts on this article 🤗
 
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