'I tried to capture her inner world – but couldn't': Tom de Freston on painting his wife pregnant and nude

Painter Tom de Freston has been drawn to the figure of his wife, novelist Kiran Millwood Hargrave, in a series of nude portraits that explore themes of pregnancy and female embodiment. The couple's experiences with seven miscarriages before the birth of their daughter Coral in 2023 have informed these works, which De Freston initially created as a way to process his grief.

De Freston's fascination with Titian's Poesie series, commissioned by King Philip II of Spain, has led him to re-examine the dynamic between male artists and female subjects. "I wanted to ask, 'What does it mean as a male artist to be looking at the female figure? And where does the agency sit?'" he explains.

Through his own paintings and those of Millwood Hargrave, De Freston seeks to subvert traditional notions of power and control. Millwood Hargrave's presence is integral to these works, which are not posed but rather taken from photographs she had agreed to share with her husband during their pregnancies.

These intimate portraits capture the vulnerability and fragility of pregnancy, while also conveying a sense of hope and resilience. De Freston describes them as "ritualistic, like spells" that offer a form of protection against loss. By elevating Millwood Hargrave's image to one of reverence and consideration, these works challenge traditional representations of the male gaze.

The exhibition Poíēsis at London's Varvara Roza Galleries will showcase De Freston's paintings alongside those of Millwood Hargrave, providing a unique insight into their artistic collaboration. As a rare exploration of pregnancy and miscarriage in visual art, these works embody a profound sense of empathy and understanding, offering a testament to the transformative power of love and connection.
 
I'm literally blown away by this artwork 🤯! Tom de Freston's paintings are so raw and honest, especially with Kiran Millwood Hargrave at their center 💕. It's amazing how his experiences with miscarriage have informed these works, and it's beautiful to see the vulnerability and fragility of pregnancy captured through art.

I love how he's subverting traditional notions of power and control by putting his wife front and center 🙌. And that they're using intimate photos from their pregnancies? So cool! It feels so personal and special 📸. I'm definitely going to check out this exhibition in London, sounds like a game-changer for me 💥!
 
I'M SO IMPRESSED BY TOM DE FRESTON'S WORKS!!! 🤯 HE'S TAKING THE CLASSIC MALE GAZE AND TURNING IT ON ITS HEAD BY PUTTING HIS WIFE AT THE FOREFRONT. IT'S LIKE, HE'S SAYING THAT AS A MAN, YOU CAN'T JUST LOOK AT A WOMAN WITHOUT HER KNOWLEDGE OR CONSENT. I LOVE HOW HE'S USING THESE INTIMATE PORTRAITS TO CAPTURE THE VULNERABILITY OF PREGNANCY AND MISCARRIAGE. IT'S SO POWERFUL AND EMOTIONAL 🤩
 
🤝 I think its really beautiful that Tom de Freston is using his art to process his grief and find a way to honor Kiran Millwood Hargrave's experiences. As someone who's been through their own share of ups and downs, I can appreciate the vulnerability and fragility of pregnancy in these paintings. Its like he's taking something that could be a source of pain and turning it into something that feels almost sacred. The fact that he's elevating Kiran's image is also really powerful - its like a testament to the way love and connection can transform us, even in the darkest moments. I'm excited to see this exhibition! 💕
 
👀 This is such a powerful exhibition! I mean, can you imagine having that kind of grief and vulnerability to draw from? It's like Tom de Freston and Kiran Millwood Hargrave are giving us permission to feel all these emotions together 🤗. And it's not just about the artwork itself, but how they're subverting traditional power dynamics between men and women in art. I love that they're making their relationship and experiences a part of this exhibition - it's like we're getting a glimpse into their own private rituals ❤️. The way these paintings make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside is real! 😊
 
🎨👩👩 I think its really cool that Tom de Freston is using his art to process his grief and share his wife's experiences. The way he's subverting traditional notions of power and control by elevating Kiran Millwood Hargrave's image is so inspiring! 🙌 It's like, we're so used to seeing women as subjects in art, but not necessarily as the ones doing the creating or driving the narrative. And I love how these portraits are more like a celebration of her strength and vulnerability during pregnancy 😊. The fact that they're taken from photos she agreed to share is also really beautiful, showing that this is all about mutual respect and trust 💕.
 
I'm literally blown away by this couple's work and how it's just taking over my thoughts 🤯. Tom de Freston and Kiran Millwood Hargrave are like two artists who have transcended their own personal struggles into something so beautiful and powerful. I mean, seven miscarriages? That's insane, but they're not letting that define them. Instead, they're creating art that's all about empowerment and vulnerability at the same time 💪. The way de Freston is subverting traditional power structures with these nude portraits is just genius 🤓. And Millwood Hargrave's presence in these works is everything – she's not some posed model, she's a real person who's been through hell and back and still managed to create something breathtakingly beautiful 💕. I'm so excited for this exhibition and how it's going to shed light on the importance of representation and empathy in art 🎨.
 
I'm still trying to figure out why platforms like Instagram and social media need features that encourage creators to share their personal struggles on public display 🤔📸 Like, I get it, art is about exploring human experiences, but can't we just have a 'private' option for when you're feeling vulnerable? 🙈 And what's with the "ritualistic, like spells" description? Sounds like some marketing buzzwords to me 😒. Can't an artist just express themselves without needing to justify their medium? 🤷‍♂️
 
omg i'm like totally blown away by this artist's work 🤯 he's literally creating these nude portraits of his wife while exploring themes of pregnancy & female embodiment - it's so deep 🤷‍♀️ i can only imagine how painful it must've been for him to go through 7 miscarriages, but at least he's using it as fuel to create something beautiful 💕 and what's crazy is that his wife gets to be the star of the show too! she's basically posing for these intimate portraits which is just so empowering 🙌 i'm definitely going to check out this exhibition in London - can't wait to see more of their collab work 🎨
 
🤝 I'm so moved by Tom de Freston's art right now - he's literally bringing his wife's strength into his paintings after everything they went through with their seven miscarriages 🌟 It's beautiful how these works are flipping the script on traditional power dynamics, where the woman is the focus and not just a subject. I love that Kiran Millwood Hargrave's presence is woven throughout these intimate portraits - it's like she's speaking directly to you 💕 The way de Freston describes them as "ritualistic, like spells" gives me chills... can't wait to see this exhibition in London! 🎨💖
 
🎨💕 I'm low-key obsessed with Tom de Freston's new series! 🤯 He's like, really pushing boundaries by creating these intimate portraits of his wife Kiran Millwood Hargrave during pregnancy. It's like, totally subverting traditional art norms and challenging the male gaze 🙅‍♂️. I mean, who wouldn't want to see their partner in all their vulnerable glory? 💁‍♀️ The fact that he's using these works as a way to process his grief is so beautiful and relatable 😔. And can we talk about how gorgeous Millwood Hargrave looks in these paintings? 👀 I've already added Poíēsis exhibition to my bucket list - it's gonna be a game-changer for art lovers! 🎉
 
I don’t usually comment but this new exhibition at Varvara Roza Galleries is really bringing up some deep thoughts about how male artists have looked at women for centuries 🤯🎨... like, it's crazy to think that Tom de Freston's wife Kiran Millwood Hargrave has been the inspiration behind so many of his works... and I love that she's not just a subject, but a collaborator too 👫. The fact that they're exploring themes of pregnancy and miscarriage is also super relevant 🤰♀️👶... it's like, we don't talk about these things enough in art, you know? And the way these portraits are capturing this vulnerability and fragility is just really beautiful 💕... I don’t usually comment but I think this exhibition needs to be seen by more people.
 
[Image of a pregnant woman with a gentle smile, surrounded by colorful flowers and leaves 🌼💕]

artist dude creates nudes of wife while dealing with 7 failed pregnancies 💔, but instead of making her look bad, he makes her look like a goddess 🙅‍♀️💫! meanwhile, his paintings are all about subverting traditional power dynamics... sounds like he's having an existential crisis 😂🎨

[Animation of a man looking at a woman from the back, with a thought bubble showing a pair of scissors cutting through a rope 💪🏽]

anyway, these portraits are all about embracing vulnerability and fragility, while also finding hope in the midst of loss 🌈💖. it's like... marriage is one big emotional rollercoaster 🎠, but hey, love conquers all, right? ❤️

[Image of a couple holding hands, with a subtle rainbow background 💕]
 
man I'm so over these new age art exhibitions, you know? 🤷‍♂️ like they're always all about some deep meaningful stuff that's just gonna make me go "meh". but this one's actually kinda cool i guess... painter tom de freston and his wife kiran millwood hargrave are doing these nude portraits of her, like, exploring pregnancy and female embodiment and all that jazz 🤯

i'm not really sure what to make of it, but it seems like de freston's trying to subvert traditional notions of power and control, which i can get behind. like, he's taking these photos from his wife during their pregnancies, so she's in control there 😂.

but for real, these artworks do seem kinda special. they're like... ritualistic or something? 🕊️ and de freston says they offer a form of protection against loss, which is wild. idk if i'd wanna hang them on my wall or anything, but maybe i can appreciate the sentiment?
 
🎨 I think it's really beautiful how Tom de Freston is using his art to explore and subvert traditional notions of power and control, especially with regards to women. His use of intimate portraits that capture the vulnerability of pregnancy is so powerful 🤰. It's like he's flipping the script on the traditional male gaze and giving his wife, Kiran Millwood Hargrave, a space to be revered and celebrated in her own right 💕. The fact that they're working together as an artistic collaboration adds this extra layer of depth and understanding to their work 🤝. I love how it's not just about depicting the physicality of pregnancy, but also the emotional and spiritual aspects that come with it 🔮.
 
I mean... who wouldn't want to be immortalized by your husband as a nude portrait series? 🤷‍♀️ Like, the ultimate love gift? I guess it's kinda cool that Tom de Freston is using his art to process his grief, but also, can we talk about how he got 7 miscarriages out of this deal? 😂 Either way, Kiran Millwood Hargrave's paintings are pretty gorgeous and I'm low-key intrigued by the whole male artist looking at female subject thing. Maybe it's time for some art history revisionism... or just a good ol' fashioned power dynamic shake-up. 💁‍♀️
 
I'm low-key obsessed with this exhibition Poíēsis 🤯! It's so refreshing to see artists exploring themes of pregnancy and female embodiment in a non-judgmental way. Tom de Freston's work is like a breath of fresh air - it's all about vulnerability and hope, not just some sterile representation of the female form 😌. And Kiran Millwood Hargrave's presence in these works is everything - I love how they're breaking down traditional power dynamics between male artists and female subjects 💪. This exhibition is a must-see for anyone who's ever felt seen or unseen during pregnancy or miscarriage... trust me, it's going to be emotional 😭!
 
I just saw this news about Tom de Freston's artwork with his wife Kiran Millwood Hargrave 🤔. I'm not really sure how he feels about painting her nude without her explicit consent though... shouldn't she get some kinda credit for sharing those photos? 😕 Also, what's with the name "Poesie" from Titian's series - is that like a code or something? 🤷‍♀️
 
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