Custody: The Secret History of Mothers by Lara Feigel – why women still have to fight for their children

For centuries, mothers have fought for their children, often at great personal cost. The fight is ongoing, with women still struggling to secure custody in courtrooms across the globe. Lara Feigel's book delves into this complex history, weaving together a narrative that spans centuries and continents.

The story begins with French novelist George Sand, who was willing to risk her own sanity to fight for custody of her children. Her courage ultimately led to changes in the law, giving women basic rights over their property and children. However, her tale is also marked by tragedy, including the loss of one of her sons during their enforced separation.

Feigel's research takes us on a journey through history, from 19th-century London to the United States in the early 20th century, where Elizabeth Packard was forced away from her children and into an insane asylum. We also meet Edna O'Brien, who won custody of her sons but spoke candidly about the pain of their struggles with custody battles.

Despite the progress made by women like Sand and Norton, the book ultimately reveals a sense of stagnation in the fight for mothers' rights. The experiences of Alice Walker, whose daughter Rebecca was deeply affected by their shared childcare arrangement after divorce, also highlight the enduring challenges faced by mothers today.

Feigel's attempt to conclude the book on an optimistic note falls flat. Her suggestion that we can imagine a future where emancipation and care coexist feels fragile in light of the stories she has told. Instead, we are left with a sense of frustration and disappointment, as women continue to fight for their children amidst a system often stacked against them.

The ongoing custody battles faced by mothers worldwide serve as a stark reminder that progress is slow and often uneven. As Feigel so eloquently conveys, the pain of these struggles can be overwhelming, leaving women feeling hollow-eyed with sorrow after a sleepless night. The fight for mothers' rights remains far from over, and it's essential to continue pushing for change in our pursuit of a more equitable society for all families.
 
I just read this book about the fight for custody and I'm still reeling 😩. It's crazy to think that women like George Sand have been fighting for so long and yet we're still seeing stories like Elizabeth Packard's today. The way they talk about the emotional toll of it all is so relatable - I've seen my own kid go through a custody battle with their other parent and it's devastating 😢. It feels like progress has been slow and sometimes you just want to throw in the towel, but then you see women like Edna O'Brien fighting for their rights and it gives me hope ❤️. We need more stories like this being told so that people can understand what moms are going through. And honestly, I think we're still a long way off from having a system that's fair and equitable for all families 🤝.
 
🤕 I just finished reading this book and I'm still trying to process everything. It's heartbreaking to think about all the women who've been through this struggle and are still fighting today. 🙏 The author does an amazing job highlighting their stories, but it feels like a small victory in the grand scheme of things. The fact that we're still dealing with these issues after centuries is just... *sigh* 😔 I think what bothers me most is how many women have to go through this alone - lack of support from family and friends can be just as damaging as any court system. We need more education, more resources, more people willing to listen and help. This fight for mothers' rights isn't going away anytime soon, so let's keep pushing forward 💪
 
I just got back from an amazing road trip 🚗💨 last weekend and saw the most gorgeous sunrise 🌅 over the mountains. It totally changed my perspective on life. I mean, think about it, we're still driving around in these crazy fast cars 🏎️, using our phones to navigate 📱, while these women are fighting for their kids' rights and dealing with so much stress 😩. It made me realize how lucky we are and how much we take for granted. I feel like we should be doing more to support each other, you know? Like, have you ever noticed how hard it is to find a good parking spot 🤯 in these cities? I swear, I've spent like an hour searching for a spot just so my kid can play on the swings 🎉. Anyway, back to mothers' rights... we should really be doing more to help them out 💕.
 
🤕 I'm so fed up with the system still not giving mums a fair shake when it comes to custody battles 🤷‍♀️. Lara Feigel's book is like, super insightful and stuff, but honestly, her ending feels kinda hopeless 😔. Like, we're supposed to just imagine some utopian future where mums and care coexist and all that jazz? 🌈 But what about the mums who are still fighting for their rights right now? 🤯 It's like, progress is slow AF ⏱️. I get it, history is complex and all that, but can't we just try to make things better for these women and their kids already? 😭
 
I'm really feeling the weight of this book - it's like, can't we just have a world where moms can be equal partners in parenting without going through all this drama? 🤯 The way it highlights how far we've come but still have so far to go is really eye-opening. I love that Feigel brought together these strong women who fought for what was right, even if it meant losing everything - it's like, their sacrifices aren't in vain or anything 💪 But at the same time, I'm like, how can we keep moving forward when progress feels so slow? 🚶‍♀️ And those stories about moms struggling with custody battles are just heartbreaking - it's like, we're still living in a world where moms have to fight for their own kids 🤕
 
I'm still reeling from this book... it's heartbreaking to think about the sacrifices women like George Sand and Elizabeth Packard made just to have some basic rights over their kids. I mean, can you even imagine being forced into an insane asylum because you wouldn't give up your kids? 🤯 It's wild how much progress we've supposedly made, but these stories show that so much work is still needed to create a system where moms are treated fairly. I'm all for imagining a future where emancipation and care coexist, but it feels like we're taking two steps forward and one step back at times 😔
 
Ugh 🤕 this is just getting worse custody battles are still a major issue worldwide no progress whatsoever its like we keep talking about the same problems 🙄 women losing their kids over custody and mental health issues dont get me why we cant just have a system that works for everyone 🚫
 
🤔 I gotta say, this whole custody battles thing is super heartbreaking. I mean, can you imagine fighting for your kids just to be told you're not good enough? It's crazy how far back this stuff goes, like with George Sand and all. Her story is wild 🌪️. But what really gets me is that even though we've come a long way (I guess), it still feels like we're stuck in the same old pattern. Like, women are just as capable of being awesome moms as men, but society's always gonna try to hold us back. It's so frustrating 😔. I love how Feigel's book tries to shine a light on this stuff, though. We gotta keep pushing for change if we wanna create a world where everyone can be happy and free. 💪
 
OMG, this custody battle thing is still going on 🤯?! I mean, you'd think we'd be way past this by now... the stories of women like George Sand, Elizabeth Packard and Edna O'Brien are so inspiring, but it's crazy to see how far they've come just for basic rights over their property and kids 🙌. The part about Alice Walker's daughter Rebecca is super heartbreaking 😭... I think Feigel did a great job researching all this history, even if the ending didn't quite feel hopeful for me... it's all so frustrating when we're still fighting for equality in families 👩‍👧‍👦.
 
🤔 gotta say, the story behind custody battles is really harsh on moms. it feels like we're still stuck in the dark ages, ya know? i mean, george sand was a total boss for fighting for her kids, but her son's death still weighs heavy. and elizabeth packard being thrown into an insane asylum? that's just messed up 💔. alice walker's story with her daughter rebecca is super relatable too - it's like, we're still not there yet in terms of making custody battles more accessible for all moms. 🤷‍♀️
 
I'm soooo frustrated 🤯👧👦 about the struggles mothers face when it comes to custody battles 💔. It's like, we're living in 2025 and still dealing with this stuff? 🤔 I mean, I've read books like Lara Feigel's that highlight how far women have come, but at the same time, it's just so sad 🎀. We need to keep fighting for those who can't fight themselves 💪. It's all about empathy and understanding, you know? 🤗 We gotta be like Edna O'Brien, speaking out against the pain and struggles 👊. The fact that we still have women going through insane asylum situations like Elizabeth Packard is just...ugh 😩. We need to keep pushing for change 💫. Mothers' rights are human rights, after all 🌎!
 
OMG, have you tried that new coffee shop downtown? 🤩 I was sipping on their latte the other day and man, it's SO good! The barista, Rachel, she's got this quirky style going on and I'm obsessed with her Instagram 😂. Anyway, what's up with custody battles in the US? My aunt went through that with my uncle and it was like, totally draining on everyone involved. They had to go to court and everything... I just can't even imagine how hard that must've been for them both 🤕
 
🙏 u know, its wild thinkin about how much moms have been fightin 4 custody & still got a long way 2 go... Lara Feigels book is like, super informative but also kinda depressing? 🤕 I mean, we gotta give it up 4 the ladies who paved the way 4 change like George Sand & Edna O'Brien, but its hard not 2 feel frustrated when ur readin about all the struggles they faced. The thing is, progress is slow, u feel? Its like, we got a few steps forward but still stuck in the mud sometimes 🌀. Anyways, I think whats important is keep pushin 4 change & make sure we got more equity 4 families everywhere 👪💪
 
this book is giving me all the feels 🤕😩 i mean, the fact that women like sand and packard went through so much just to get basic rights over their kids is just heartbreaking. and the way feigel weaves these stories together its like a punch to the gut 💥. i cant help but think about all the women out there still fighting for custody today and it just makes me wanna scream 🎤. i wish feigels ending felt more hopeful, you know? like she kinda dropped the ball there 🏀. anyhoo, this book is a must-read for anyone who cares about women's rights and fighting for change 💁‍♀️👊.
 
🤯 I mean, can you even imagine being a mom fighting for custody of your kids? It's like, the ultimate nightmare come true. And yet, these women - like George Sand and Elizabeth Packard - they just went above and beyond to fight for what's right. But here's the thing: it feels like we're still stuck in the same old cycle. Like, progress is being made, but it's so slow and uneven. I mean, think about it - we've got women who have been institutionalized for fighting for their kids, and now we've got women who are just fighting to get equal rights over their own property. It's just...ugh. The pain and frustration that these women must feel is just, like, unimaginable. We need to keep pushing for change, but it's gotta be more than just a pipe dream. 🤝
 
Man I'm literally so done with the whole custody battle thing 🤯 It's like, we're still fighting for basic rights after centuries?! 😡 Women are constantly put through this emotional trauma and it's just not okay. I love how Lara Feigel is highlighting these strong women who paved the way but at the same time, her book feels super pessimistic about the progress we've made 🤔 The struggles of mothers worldwide are real and I'm like, so tired of seeing them face obstacles that seem impossible to overcome 💔 We need more support systems in place for these women and their kids. Period 🙅‍♀️
 
🌟💖 I'm literally getting chills reading this! Lara Feigel is a total hero for shedding light on the struggles of moms throughout history 😭. It's crazy how far we've come, but it's also super sad that the fight for custody rights is still so far from over 🤕. I mean, can you even imagine having to go through what Elizabeth Packard and Edna O'Brien went through? 💔 The pain and frustration must be unbearable. But you know what gets me - every single woman who has ever fought for her kids is a total rockstar! 💪 We gotta keep pushing for change and supporting each other in this journey towards a more equal society 🌈💕
 
🤔 I'm so done with the fact that mothers still have to fight tooth and nail for custody of their kids 🙄. Like, what even is this? A century ago, George Sand was literally willing to lose her sanity to get rights for her children, and now we're just... stuck? 🙃 It's like, progress is slow, but not moving forward at all. I feel so bad for women like Alice Walker whose kids were affected by their custody arrangements after divorce 🤕. We gotta keep pushing for change, fam! 💪 Can't just leave these women and their families hanging out to dry 😩
 
ugh i cant even imagine fighting for custody of my kids like these moms did... its so sad that progress is slow 🤕 their stories are heartbreaking and it feels like we're still living in the same world they were fighting against 🙅‍♀️ lets keep pushing for change and make sure our society is more supportive of families 👪💖
 
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