idk why ppl are making a big deal about this woman's birthday plans 
... i mean yeah the stepdad has an allergy but it's not like she's forcing him to eat shellfish or anything... can't he just order something else for himself? 
and btw i've been trying to cut down on my own food waste lately, so i totally get why she'd wanna stick to her tradition 
... i mean yeah the stepdad has an allergy but it's not like she's forcing him to eat shellfish or anything... can't he just order something else for himself? and btw i've been trying to cut down on my own food waste lately, so i totally get why she'd wanna stick to her tradition 
. It's about power dynamics in the family. Think about it: if your stepdad has a history of crossing boundaries and now he wants you to accommodate him on your special day? That's like saying "okay" to a never-ending cycle of guilt and resentment. The woman is basically saying "no more" and taking back control. Some people are going to get mad, but I say kudos to her for prioritizing her own needs 
. It's about time we started talking about how to set healthy boundaries in our families, especially when it comes to power imbalances 
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this is so relatable... i mean, who sets their plans around others just because they're family? 
the woman's right to stick to tradition is valid, but also understanding if it causes someone else distress is key 
it's not about being selfish, it's about prioritizing your own happiness and well-being 
we need more people like this who aren't afraid to set boundaries 
I think this whole thing is kinda like when my grandma used to get mad at me if I didn't want to help with the dishes after dinner... yeah it can be a bit awkward, but honestly, who's gonna win in the end? It's her birthday and she wants to celebrate her way, no biggie! 