You be the judge: should my husband stop walking everywhere – and get on his bike?

A marital dilemma has sparked a heated debate: should Frida's husband Frantz ditch his trusty walking shoes for the wheels of a bike?

For Frida, cycling is not just a mode of transport, but an adventure. She finds that it allows her to explore new trails and parks at a leisurely pace, discovering hidden gems in the city she calls home with her husband. But her enthusiasm for cycling has a downside: it often means she's late to their plans, leaving Frantz waiting patiently.

Frantz, on the other hand, is a walking enthusiast who values the joys of strolling through the city at a slow and steady pace. He enjoys stopping to grab a coffee or browse a book shop, savoring the moment rather than rushing to the destination. For him, cycling can't replicate that experience - he wants to enjoy the journey, not just the endpoint.

Their differing perspectives have led to a standoff: Frida insists on cycling whenever possible, while Frantz prefers walking. But as their 50th wedding anniversary approaches, Frida's husband has been feeling frustrated and left waiting for his partner to arrive. Has it come to that Frantz should trade in his shoes for the pedals of a bike? Should Frida learn to speed up (if she can)? Or is there a middle ground where both partners can compromise and find happiness on their own terms?

The jury of Guardian readers has weighed in: 95% believe Edwin should ditch his expectations about attending family gatherings - but none have commented directly on Frantz's predicament. However, the online poll asking if Frantz should get on his bike is sure to spark more discussion - will you join the debate?
 
I'm kinda torn on this one 🤔... I mean, Frida gets it, cycling is super liberating and all that jazz, but Frantz has a point too, strolling through the city can be so chill 🌳. But at the same time, maybe Frida just needs to learn to prioritize her plans more and not leave Frantz hanging like that 😩... I mean, it's their 50th anniversary, she should make an effort, right? On the other hand, if Frantz really can't deal with being late all the time, maybe he should just get a bike and be done with it 🚴‍♂️. Ugh, my mind is going round in circles! 😂
 
Ugh, I'm so tired of these couples making me feel guilty for just wanting to enjoy a quiet morning coffee ☕️. Frantz is literally doing nothing wrong by wanting to take it easy and savor the moment 🤷‍♂️. And Frida's always running around like her life depends on it? It's not exactly the most romantic thing, ya know? 😒 I mean, I get it, she loves cycling and all that, but can't she just make an effort to be on time every once in a while?! ⏰ It's not about being late or early, it's about respecting each other's boundaries. If Frantz wants to walk, he should be able to do that without feeling like he's stuck in the slow lane 🚶‍♂️. I'm so sick of these couples always having to compromise on their hobbies and interests... can't they just find a middle ground where both partners are happy?! 😩
 
I think it's kinda selfish of Frida to always expect Frantz to wait for her 🤦‍♂️. I mean, he likes taking things slow and enjoying the journey, that's what relationships are all about, right? But at the same time, Frantz should learn to be more flexible 🤝. After 50 years together, they should know each other's vibes by now. Maybe Frida could try setting a timer or something so she knows how long it'll take her to get there 🕰️? Or better yet, they could just find ways to make their planned activities more interactive... like going on a bike ride and then grabbing coffee together 🚴‍♀️☕️! That way, both of them can enjoy the experience without one person feeling left behind 😊.
 
🤔 think its all a setup they want Frida to be late and then say hes not getting it, just 'cause she loves cycling, its like they wanna control her or smthn. And Frantz is just tryin 2 enjoy life, but no one's listenin. I mean, whats the hurry? can't we all just chill for once? 🤯
 
I think frantz needs to find a way to compromise with frida, maybe they can plan their adventures together so he knows how long it'll take her and can plan accordingly. cycling has its perks but walking is great for slowing down and enjoying life too. i wouldn't blame franza if she cycled more often but at the same time, i feel bad for him getting frustrated all the time 😊
 
Ugh 🤯 I'm like totally torn between Frida and Frantz lol 😂 They both have valid points. Frida needs her cycling adventure fix and Frantz wants to chill out 😎 But, on the other hand, 50 years of marriage is a big deal 💕 You'd think they could find some common ground 🤝 Maybe Frida can try to speed up a bit (just kidding, sorta 😜) or get a super reliable bike so Frantz isn't left waiting all. The thing is, it's not just about the mode of transport, it's about their relationship 💗 and finding what makes them both happy 🙏. I don't think either one should "ditch" the other's vibes 🚫. They can find a middle ground that works for them 👍
 
I feel bad for Frantz 😔 he sounds really frustrated and left waiting all the time 🕰️ I think Frida needs to find a balance between her love of cycling and their relationship 💪 maybe they can plan things together so Frantz knows when to expect her back ⏰ or Frida could try learning to estimate how long it'll take her to get from point A to point B so she doesn't leave him hanging 🕳️ but honestly, I think a middle ground would be the best solution 🤝 like they say, "compromise is key" 💬
 
I feel bad for Frantz, he's been patient all these years and now Frida's enthusiasm for cycling has led to him feeling left waiting. I think it's time they found a compromise, maybe she could try setting aside specific times when she'll cycle and others when she'll walk with him? It's not about one or the other, but finding a balance that works for both of them 🚴‍♀️💕
 
I think this whole thing is a classic case of 'quality over quantity' 😊. Frida's all about exploring new trails and experiencing life at her own pace, while Frantz is about slowing things down and savoring the journey. You can't really compare these two approaches - they're like apples and oranges! 💦

In my opinion, it's not about which mode of transport is 'better', but rather understanding each other's needs and finding a compromise that works for both. Maybe Frida could try to be more aware of her bike time and plan her routes accordingly? 🚴‍♀️ Or maybe Frantz could learn to be a bit more patient and enjoy the anticipation of waiting for his partner to arrive? ⏰

But let's get real, this is all about relationship dynamics and communication 🤝. Are Frida and Frantz having an open conversation about their needs and expectations? Or are they just stuck in a stalemate? 🚫 I think it's time for them to have a heart-to-heart (or should I say, a bike-to-bike 😉) and find a solution that works for both of them! 💕
 
omg Frida and Frantz are literally the ultimate power couple who can't even agree on what kind of exercise to do together lol. like, come on 50 years of marriage and he's still waiting for her to hurry up? maybe instead of getting a new bike, he should just learn to enjoy the suspense? idk tho, I think Frida's got some decent points about exploring new trails...
 
Ugh 🤔, I don't think it's that simple. Frida and Frantz have been together for 50 years, they should know each other's vibes by now. If she loves cycling so much, maybe she can just plan ahead and set a realistic arrival time? Or better yet, make sure to leave some buffer time in case something goes wrong. And as for Frantz, I think he needs to chill 🤷‍♂️ out a bit. It's not about the destination, it's about spending quality time together. They can compromise on that - maybe they can take turns choosing the mode of transport or alternate between walking and cycling. That way, everyone gets what they want. Besides, 95% of people think Edwin should ditch his expectations, but nobody's commenting on Frantz? Is this just a case of attention-seeking? 🤷‍♂️
 
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